The Step that Will Change Our Marriage

Every year, I make goals.

Every year, I’m successful at some and not so successful with others.

This year is a bit different, letting you into my methods to be successful. One such goal is to have a better marriage. Let me give you a little background.

Growing up, I was not surrounded by happily married couples.

My parents seemed happy on the outside, but on the inside, they were distant. My mother content clicking away on the computer keyboard in her office while my dad, well, he was kinda just there. Even at a young age, I realized they weren’t right for each other. I couldn’t say that there was any fundamental flaw with either one of them, just that the other wasn’t a complement. Their quiet bickering in their room only affirmed my belief and so did their eventual divorce.

Most of my extended family never married. Single motherhood was, and still is, the norm. For the few that had taken the plunge, abuse was rampant, the impressions apparent on my generation.

There were a couple of married couples that seemed to survive, but as I aged, I found out they were at best dealing with each other.

When my proposal came, I was excited, but I also had very low expectations. In all honesty, if I could avoid Aggression, Abuse and Adultery, I would be able to make it last forever.

Changing Our Marriage

So we married… and a lot of things occurred: financial ruin, death of a child, strained familial relationships, but none of the three As. We made it to the other side, relatively unscathed.

Or so I thought.

I thought we were happy. I thought we were a great couple.

We are, but we aren’t.

In our desire to keep a peaceful relationship, we skip the argument and turn it into animosity and resentment. We wish the other did things. Occasionally, we’d discuss it, but we rarely resolved it.

What do you do about non-issues? I tried to figure out how it would go in therapy:

Therapist: What brought you in today?

Us: We don’t argue, but somethings wrong.

Therapist: What?

Us: *shoulder shrug*

Sadly, we’d be telling the truth. We didn’t know what was wrong, just that something was.

When our church announced that they started a ministry called Re|Engage for married couples, I was eager to sign up. They introduced it as a ministry that will bring a marriage back from the brink of death and/or improve the best of marriages. Sounds like we couldn’t go wrong.

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I told my husband about it. As usual, he had little reaction to the news.

Until last December, when he heard about it at church. Well, when he processed the announcement from church, he decided it was something we should do together.

We went to our first meeting, of course, right before the winter break. Three weeks went by. But we started right back up again in 2016.

Their format requires that you attend weekly meetings, initially being placed into an Open Group, then eventually Closed Group. In order for this process to work, you have to be comfortable sharing and laying your flaws on the table. Until you are comfortable, you stay in an Open Group. The Open Group changes weekly, as couples come and go. Once you’re ready to really dig deeper, you can request to join a Closed Group.

A Closed Group is several couples who promise to keep the session confidential, so that everyone can freely speak without rejection or judgment. When you reach the Closed Group, you work through the workbook, chapter by chapter, diving deeper into yourself, your heart and your soul.

After four short weeks, we have made it into a Closed Group. Now, I can truly share our journey and what we are getting from the sessions. Please join me through the process.

So, to finish this week’s sentence: “I’m thankful for…”

  • I’m thankful that my husband not only wants a decent marriage, but wants a great one.
  • I’m thankful that he opted to come because I would not have pushed.
  • I’m thankful that our church offered a solution, an alternative to traditional therapy.
  • I’m thankful that he’s excited to go.
  • I’m thankful that we’ve started praying together.
  • I’m thankful that the church offers childcare so that we can go weekly, without the need of a babysitter.
  • I’m thankful that it’s at a time that is convenient.
  • I’m thankful for the couples that we’ve met.
  • I’m thankful for the leaders of the ministry for their time.

Most of all,

  • I’m thankful that we, as a couple, are on the same page, as we embark on 2016 to make our marriage stronger.

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I Can Do All Things…

This bible verse has been in my head for the last couple of weeks.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. ~Philippians 4:13

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I’ve been struggling with my confidence, my self-worth, my world around me. I know part of this negative speak is because of the heartbreaking news I found out recently, but I know that’s only worsened my doubts, instead of created them.

I set out a few goals at the beginning of the month: making money, losing weight, and organizing my surroundings.

I’ve been making money steadily, hitting close to my goal. I can see myself making more, especially if I commit to writing, and moreover, submitting my writing.

Dropping Gaining Pounds

Because of my grief, I actually gained weight, then took it back off again. But on Monday, I started Les Mills Pump, a dvd workout series that uses weights. It’s probably the closest I’ll get to a CrossFit workout since having left my last gym this summer. I grabbed my weights and put on my cute, not so flattering outfit, carved out a little area and got to work.

Then stopped to tell my girls that they can’t walk through while I’m lifting weights.

Then started again.

Then stopped to move my girls out of the way.

But I did it. I finished.

Day 2 was a rest day, so instead I jumped rope for 10 minutes. Jumping rope is no joke. But I did it… well, I put the timer on for 10 minutes and rested when needed. I was proud that after five minutes, I just didn’t throw in the towel.

I decided to also get a pedometer, so, I’ll update you on how that goes. I’m thankful that I finally got my mind together.

Making Some Cash

I had a few ideas on how to make some money, without getting a job. First, I jumped on OfferUp, which I talked about a few weeks ago. For as much stuff as I had in the garage, I figured this would be the way to go. It’s not. At least not for me. These buyers are crazy. I’ve wasted a lot of time, but it’s inspired a piece that I’m working on.

Next up, mystery shopping. I’ve joined a series of mystery shopping companies and most of them take about an hour of my time between the shop itself and the survey (not including drive time). They are fairly simple, but the high paying ones are competitive. I managed to get quite a few. I’m not sure why someone would want to even waste their time calling a dealership for $2, but I’m sure someone does it, since the pay hasn’t increased.

Third, I sold a couple of spots on my blog and social media accounts. I really need to go down this route more since some of them are really easy (especially the social media shares). Granted, it’s only easy because of the work that I did before to build my social media account following and engagement.

I’m thankful that I managed to get really close to my goal.

A Closet Less Junky

Last year, I bought a closet for my crafts, which quickly became the junk closet. At the beginning of this year, I had to straighten it up just a bit since my husband wanted use of another closet that my crafts were actually inhabiting. That was it. Now, it’s fairly clean and organized except one area. I need a solution for temporary filing. I’m working on it.

“She turned to the sunlight And shook her yellow head,And whispered to her neighbor- -Winter is dead.”

I’m thankful to be able to get into my closet and see what’s there.

Being an Awesome Parent

This summer has stressed the need for flexibility and understanding in parenting. I’ve struggled, cried, and worried about how my children will grow up. Mom groups have saved me. I’m in two mom groups, made a couple of friends and go to a women’s bible study. It’s helped immensely. Plus, I came across this awesome picture:

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For these things, I’m truly grateful.

Conquering the Writing World

As much as I want to grow as a writer, I haven’t done as much as I should. What I have done has landed me in a second anthology!

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Being Me

Over the last year, I have questioned who I am outside of being a mother. I’ve struggled finding out where I fit in. Before SAHM-hood, I was the money maker (not particularly the breadwinner), but I brought in a pretty penny. Now, I’m accountable to someone else for every dime I spend.

 

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I can’t believe it took me so long to realize that others felt that I was all of these things. I mean, dependable and efficient, I’m all over it, but a leader, creative, kind? I often feel like I cut people off so quickly, but these colleagues see something completely different. I’m grateful to have them in my life, not just to be able to talk to them as adults, but also that they see something in me that I’m not sure I see within myself.

More gratefulness…

I’m grateful that my girls are growing up strong and secure.

I love that we’ve found a routine that makes it interesting and fun for me and my girls. As much as I’m a homebody, we go somewhere every morning, just to give them a different atmosphere and other people to play with.

I’m finally feeling better, making sure that I get things done, like write this blog post, as well as the other for this week. I have missed everyone and I’ve been so tired, drained and depressed that I really couldn’t post more than once a week. I finally feel like I can breathe again.

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Just Five More Minutes

I’ll have to give myself a SMH with this post. I started it last week, and never published it. My mind is feeling warped from sleep deprivation, but I will have to push through.


 

Life passes so quickly. Friends and family are here one day and gone the next.

Since moving to Florida, the funeral announcements seem endless. Few are surprising, as ages are progressive to say the least. The age of their death assumes a full life, one of fulfilled promises and destinies met.

That’s not always the case.

The shame of it all is that dreams die, “life” gets in the way of living, and excuses become the norm.

Deaths are followed by begging or pleading for scraps to bury their dead. Families come together and pay, if they can.

If they can’t, public pleas of need are broadcast through Kickstarter accounts, selling personal items, even selling chicken dinners on the street corner.

And that’s just a shame.

It’s a shame that, in a family’s time of grief, they have to worry about how to lay their loved one to rest.

It’s a shame that the family member didn’t have any type of insurance policy to cover the funeral costs.

It’s a shame that the lack of planning is prevalent in lower income communities.

It’s a shame that funeral homes and cemeteries have a reputation for gouging the grieving.

That can change… there is light.

The light isn’t sexy or even bright. It’s simple really… planning and foresight. Even moreso, there is light in the now, knowing you can make different choices today.

Knowing this, I am looking forward to my future, seeing my light starting now. My light is in seizing my present, making changes today that will affect our future. For that opportunity, I am thankful.

My husband and I have embarked on a new body care line, starting with a foot cream and body scrub. We are pleased to announce our new product, a hand and body scrub:

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Privacy is a value that I hold dear. As much as I let the world in, I keep a lot to myself. The fear of judgment and ridicule is scary and vulnerable. As I’m reaching outside my comfort zone, I know I have to be open and honest to let you, my reader in, for you to relate to me. I’m not snarky or funny, and I’m struggling to find comfort in just being me.

Today, I’m going to start letting that go, and it’s less for you than for me. Honesty, holds me back in my real life too. I know I make plenty of mistakes, but I fear sharing them.

Here, I’m going to put forth my goals, openly and honestly:

  • I want to lose 20 pounds this month. A lofty goal, but perfectly attainable if I do what I’m supposed to do. I’m currently 217 pounds, so I would love to hit the under 200 mark by the end of the month.
  • I need to earn $500 this month. I am traveling to California for the second time this year. I need to contribute substantially since I do not have an income of my own. I would love if you could show any support by listening to my podcast, choosing Exumas Isle as a product line, or purchasing anything from Amazon (bookmark it too!).
  • I need to get organized. Some look and see organization in my home, as everything is put away, yet I see a hot mess. I want to have everything in its place. I get so frustrated when things are in disarray. I also get overwhelmed and are slow to clean them because I find it stressful to do otherwise. Counterproductive, I know.

We’ve completed a dozen episodes of Run Your World, a podcast. We are finding our way and enjoying each step. I’m thankful to have a partner that has the same vision and is willing to put in the work to get us there.

As I understand all of the endeavors that I have thrown myself into, I have to be thankful for the opportunities that are around me, my ability to take them on and my willingness to do them.

To piggy back on that, I am very thankful that I have been able to focus, over the last couple of weeks, on making sure that my children sleep in their own bed for the entire night. We still have some hiccups, like last night when Butterfly decided at 2 a.m. that she did not want to go back to sleep. We are still making progress, in general, more recent nights are better than the previous.

This school year, I’ve embarked on homeschooling my preschoolers and so far, I’ve been successful. Every day, we learn a new word, a new sound. I’m thankful to have children so excited to learn. Even Butterfly, not quite two, is learning her alphabet and numbers by sight, her shapes and we’re working hard on her colors. Bee is working on reading, pronouncing each letter and delivering a complete word.

I’m surprised at how often we are being craftsy. I’m thankful that I’ve been able to let go of control, to be neat and clean and to avoid messes at all costs. We still have not, and will not, utilize play dough, but otherwise, we’ve made lots of art projects.

Bunny is another story, as he is entering middle school, my frustration level increases. Please pray for patience so I don’t lose it on him… again.

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My Little Minions

Evidence surrounds us that school is back in session. My son is gone all day, and is considering which athletic teams he would like to join, I’m homeschooling my daughters and more than anything, my mommy friends don’t have children at home to visit. No more pool trips, alone at the beach and visits to the museum are no longer free. Structure-free days are gone and wake up times are earlier.

My little minions and I conquered a lot of our bucket list. Yet, the best part was that we kept busy… no aches of boredom or readiness to go back to school in this house. My son was ready to see his friends, but would’ve been content being home for a few more weeks. I consider that a successful summer. The memories have been set and hopefully will stay favorable in my kiddos mind.

Now that summer’s over, I’m ready to help my children learn and grow. I’m ready for field trips and coloring lessons, singing the alphabet song and circle time, and videos with counting and sight words.

All of that said, there are many things that I miss about the summer…

 

My Little Minions

Over the summer, I stretched outside of my comfort zone and ventured to the beach. I know a lot of people love the beach, including my children. I can’t stand the sand ending up in crevices that you didn’t know you had. The glee that my little minions showed their excitement anticipation of going was well worth it.

From South Florida Science Museum and Learning Center

Museums tend not to be at the top of my priority list, because as much as I like them, they are often price-restrictive and outside of our budget. With the aid of LAMP, we were able to go to Norton Museum, Flagler Museum, South Florida Science Center and Aquarium (twice), and Schoolhouse Children’s Museum and Learning Center (twice).

We spent hours upon hours in the pool, each improving our swimming techniques. My little daredevil, Bee, was excited to take off her flotation devices and managed to swim at least 20 feet across the pool. I’m imagining that if her brother was in the pool, she would’ve tried hard and swam farther. But alas, I’ll have to do with my “not quite four year old” swimming across the pool. I was so proud of her. She was a trooper and persistent.

Friendships developed and strengthened as the children became close with other families. We visited them and they returned the favor. Water play was a favorite, enjoying in the childhood play of warm weather and water from the sprinklers. Watching them play reminded me of the days long ago. If my only care was to run around letting the water flow though my hair and over my body in the dead of summer.

Family rolled into town. My children had an opportunity to spend time with them. Those days were not wasted, they were important and loved. My babies loved every minute and wished for it to never end.

We hosted our first home party for the Fourth of July, having received our dining room table which seats an additional eight people. I loved the space that each person had. No one searched for a place to sit, as we also acquired a patio table. Twelve seats in a month’s time, makes our home perfect for large family parties. I enjoyed myself, maybe a bit too much, as my husband points out. Labor Day is around the corner. I can make it up then.

At one particular museum trip, my daughter’s received beautiful face painting by Affordable Face Magic in West Palm Beach. The woman did a fantastic job. It dried quickly and didn’t smear until actual water was applied. Their constant desire to bury their face in my chest didn’t faze these designs. By the way, why does it look like we all have a mustache? These photos were taken by the museum itself.

I spent time with my son. My eldest is now a middle schooler. I’m happy and sad all at the same time. This week, he experienced his first real try out. I wanted him to make the flag football team with all of my heart, but knowing he was not someone who spent a lot of time practicing, I wasn’t expecting anything. Unfortunately, he didn’t make it. Broke my heart, but I couldn’t show it. We are taking the opportunity to have him practice so that next year or the next season, he can be a stronger candidate.

Personally, this summer has afforded me the opportunity to begin my novel, learning how to write and get paid, learn that I’m more than and can get paid for my work. I’m learning how to break my fear barriers and reach beyond.

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This week’s words are Memory and Angry.

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Watch Me Whip

School started this week and my goal to initiate a schedule fell apart quickly as I attempt to find discount (or used) uniforms for Bunny, attempt to potty train Butterfly and find ways to keep Bee engaged in education.

When I say that this week has flown by, I cannot even believe it’s already Thursday. I’m working on very little sleep finding that my daughters don’t believe that they should have to sleep in their bed. This struggle has been going on all summer, walking them back to their bed several times. Sadly, it seems, that they will sleep better if I allow them to sleep in my bed for about 30 minutes, then return them to their own bed. When taking them immediately back to their bed, they sleep with one eye open trying to catch me before I leave. Leaving isn’t an option since Bunny has school and the crying (through our thin walls and door) will wake him.

All of that said, I am blessed to have many things to be thankful for this week:

School starting without a hitch. My husband and I switched driving schedules, me dropping him off and him picking up. This change has made naptime less stressful as I don’t have to plan around sleeping schedules to pick my son up.

What seemed an impossible task last year, proved simple this year, as everyone is up an hour and forty-five minutes before school starts and we’ve arrived at school with at least 10 minutes to spare every morning. My children and I are up and at them at 7 a.m. and out of the door by 8. No crying, yelling or screaming has hit us in the wee hours of the morning. Two thanks in one!

Last week, I failed to tell a story that significantly impacted the way our summer ended.

We woke early Thursday morning in order to meet a mommy who was giving away a lot of used uniforms for free at 9 a.m. about 20 minutes away. The morning went smoothly and we arrived about 10 minutes early. If you live in Florida, the heat and humidity have been torturing us early, so we got out of the car to walk around. Thankfully, the school was open, so we walked in to cool down. I promptly texted the mommy and received the reply, “I’m an ass, I’m on my way”. Only a few more minutes of entertaining my tribe before we can move forward in our day.

Those few minutes turned to thirty, then forty. When I contacted her again, she said she thought I was someone else and had given all of the clothes (enough for at least two children) to one other mommy.

Frustrated, I went on with our day. Since we had to travel to make the meet, I planned our day around this venture and hit up the Schoolhouse Children’s Museum & Learning Center in Boynton Beach. The kids played for an hour and a half before we were on our way to our next stop… a quick food run then to visit grandma at work.

What came to a head that day was something I certainly didn’t expect. We had been having various problems with our car and that day, in the middle of the street, the clutch decided it could no longer hold on. We coasted into the parking lot of an auto repair shop where the car pooped out.

I was completely unprepared in this heat with all three children, where, as soon as I discovered that this car wasn’t moving, my well potty-trained daughter figured that was the perfect time to pee on herself. She hadn’t had an accident in a good six months, I had no change of clothes and I was in a parking lot 15 miles away from home.

All of this leads me to my thanks. Longbottom’s Auto Repair was a savior. I was unsure of how we were going to proceed and couldn’t get a hold of my husband or mother-in-law. They let me sit there, no prying eyes. About 10 minutes later, I finally knew my next step, only to realize that my husband suggested we bring it to our local mechanic. They allowed us to sit inside the cool air conditioned area until the tow truck arrived and took a low pressure sales pitch. I appreciated their kindness and their ability to recognize that my stress level had gone through the roof. If you’re in the Lantana or Boynton Beach area, please stop by.

We’ve started homeschooling this week for my little two, Bee and Butterfly. They are anxious to learn and throughout our days, we have covered writing, art, sight words, colors and letters. Both of them have been very receptive, and encouraging each other to repeat and participate.

Yet, when all is said and done, educating them only takes a few hours of the day (they are not yet 2 and not yet 4) and the rest of the day is filled with various educational videos and free play. They can only enjoy the letters video so many times before they become bored.

For that, I am very thankful to Silento… a silly song, which can hardly classify as a song, in my opinion, as it only has enough words to fill up a short poem. If you were to remove the repetitive words, you’d be down to eight words.

For your reading please, feel free to enjoy the lyrics of Watch Me Nae Nae by Silento

You already know who it is
Silentó
Silentó
Silentó
Gonna do it for meNow watch me whip (Kill it!)
Now watch me nae nae (Okay!)
Now watch me whip whip
Watch me nae nae (Want me do it?)Now watch me whip (Kill it!)
Watch me nae nae (Okay!)
Now watch me whip whip
Watch me nae nae (Can you do it?)

Now watch me

Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh ooh ooh ooh

Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh ooh ooh ooh

[x2:]
Do the stanky leg (stank)
Do the stanky leg (stank stank)
Do the stanky leg (stank)
Do the stanky leg (stank stank)

Now break your legs (break ’em, break ’em)
Break your legs (break ’em dog)
Tell ’em “break your legs” (break ’em, break ’em)
Break your legs (break ’em dog)
Tell ’em “break your legs” (break ’em, break ’em)
Break your legs (break ’em dog)
Tell ’em “break your legs” (break ’em, break ’em)
Break your legs (break ’em dog)

Now watch me
Bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop
Now watch me
Bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop

Now watch me whip (Kill it!)
Now watch me nae nae (Okay!)
Now watch me whip whip
Watch me nae nae (Want me do it?)

Now watch me whip (Kill it!)
Watch me nae nae (Okay!)
Now watch me whip whip
Watch me nae nae (Can you do it?)

Now watch me

Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh ooh ooh ooh

Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh ooh ooh ooh

Now watch me yule
Now watch me superman
Now watch me yule
Now watch me superman

Now watch me yule
Now watch me superman
Now watch me yule
Now watch me superman

Now watch me duff, duff, duff, duff, duff, duff, duff, duff (Hold on)
Now watch me duff, duff, duff, duff, duff, duff, duff, duff, duff

Now watch me
Bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop
Now watch me
Bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop bop

Now watch me whip (Kill it!)
Now watch me nae nae (Okay!)
Now watch me whip whip
Watch me nae nae (Want me do it?)

Now watch me whip (Kill it!)
Watch me nae nae (Okay!)
Now watch me whip whip
Watch me nae nae (Can you do it?)

Now watch me

Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh ooh ooh ooh

Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh watch me, watch me
Ooh ooh ooh ooh
Crank dat

Each time I play the video for my girls, I notice the number of views climb exponentially. I couldn’t help but laugh, wondering if the number is increasing just for those moms like me who keep it on replay to keep my children dancing and entertained. My daughters have probably watched it no less than 100 times, learning clean modern dance moves, so I can’t complain.

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I’m sure there are ten things to be thankful here. I have survived the first week of school and ready to conquer the school year.

How about you?

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This week’s words are Innocence and Dance.

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The Best is Yet to Come

Clouds roll in and sprinkle the city with warm rain as I sit here at my computer alone. Being alone is becoming more commonplace as my husband helps me work through my goal of becoming an established writer.

Getting used to the quiet is difficult, spending my days with three loud and rambunctious children hardly lends itself to silent times. I don’t have to rush through my work and instead read and enjoy, edit and review, hopefully giving you a better piece of post.

To kick off my week of thanks is a big hug and thanks to my husband, who has become a more loving and caring husband, harder worker and understanding partner. Although I’m not lucky to have him, I am blessed to have found him.

This last week of summer has been a rollercoaster of emotion and complications. Yet sitting here, I am thinking of all that went right.

One morning, I walked down our walkway and was hit in the face by the overgrowth of our front tree. I managed to reach out to a neighbor’s gardener who was in the midst of trimming her landscape. Looking to scale back my lush tree, I inquired about the price. Although not expensive, I couldn’t justify paying the amount to my husband. I’m sure he would opt to do it himself. I politely declined and left to run an errand.

Upon my return, I saw him walking away with fallen debris. I started shaking my head thinking about how I was going to tell my husband. When I got out of the car, I said that I figured he didn’t hear me decline his services. He promptly replied “It’s ok. Some things are more important than money,” and walked away.  Being a blessing to another is more than just words and although I can’t repay him with money, I’m hoping that there’s at least one person who needs landscaping services in the West Palm Beach area and hire him: Powell’s Landscaping and Design 561.379.8049 and they did a great job.

On my most recent episode of Run Your World podcast, I spoke extensively about my experience at the The Homeschooling Expo. My son can be a little flighty and we have been strongly considering homeschooling so that he can excel. I found out some great specifics that I talked about on the podcast, but overall, by the end, I was confident that if that option has to be exercised, I would be able to handle his education.

As much as I wish my children would do chores and treat each other well all the time, they are like many other children. They don’t, won’t and can’t. I have tried several types of reward charts, but with the age gap between my preteen and my toddler, I found it hard to keep all of their information straight. So, I came up with a universal reward chart that just rewards all good deeds on any level. We go through a lot of stars, but it’s worth it.

Recently, baby Butterfly decided that she no longer enjoyed the colorful and playful cage that we call her crib. She has been trying to escape, slowly getting one leg firmly on top of the rail. So, it was time to remove the giant pen and allow her to roam free. After much thought, we decided one low profile full bed for them was in our future. In preparation, I rearranged the room. What a difference that made for the room, it’s brighter, easier to manage and cleaner. Now, I just need their new bed.

Even though I love having all of my children home, I’m ready for the pressures of summer to be over. We conquered our Bucket List, although I failed to update you all on our adventures. While enjoying the children, my blog took a back seat and I don’t regret a minute of it. Now, summer is almost over. Bunny is headed off to middle school and it’ll be nice to get back into a routine. Of course, if I start homeschooling, I have to figure out how to manage all three for many hours in a row.

We really did have a magnificent summer, skipping a major trip and spreading out the funds to visit a lot of local venues. We spent lots of time under the sun, with friends, and some without. Museums and parks were frequently visited. We spent lots of time with out-of-town family who graciously ventured to us. Unlike previous years,  where disappointment hung in the air from promises not held, we did something everyday thanks to the LAMP program…and friends with pools. Hopefully, I can get my son to do a follow up post soon enough.

Becoming a godparent is a huge responsibility. I recently accepted the opportunity to take on the roll. This led me to travel to California for her dedication. Being kid free, I wanted to capitalize on the trip. I was able to write, write and write some more, including submissions to anthologies and paid websites. I never thought I would opt for airplane sleep over sleeping in my bed, but it’s better than a foot in the face. Or being woken up four times in night. Or walking your child back to their bed. Ah to the small victories.

I am truly blessed to have family nearby and this summer reaffirms our decision to move cross-country. My in-laws are magnificent and even the short times my children spent with them were a Godsend. The bonds between them are getting stronger with each visit, with only a small twinge of envy from me.

Like everything else, selling is a skill that seems to be one that I don’t have. I have been diligently posting items on eBay and OfferUp, with lots of interest, but no purchases and no indication of why. Even so, I finally successfully sold something on OfferUp and eBay. I can feel my Scrooge McDuck coming out! eBay has taught me some valuable lessons which I have to relay in a post.

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As the summer comes to a close and my organization hits an all time high, I’m looking forward to getting my birthday and event calendar under control. When I think of birthdays, I think of celebrating the good times and being grateful for those in our lives for another year. Hosting parties is not my specialty, but I hope that one day I’ll be able to clear minded enough to pull several off in a year. As the summer comes to a close, birthdays will be upon us, one or more every month until June.

The trials and tribulations of this week does not negate all of the good things that have been happening in my life. How’d your week go?

I’m linking up with Ten Things of Thankful and Finish the Sentence Friday this week. please link up and join along.

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An Unusual Week of Feeling Accomplished

At the end of my world, I want to know I did something, affected someone, completed something. The days I hate most are the ones that I feel like nothing got done, including spending time with my children.

I have days like that. Days where I do “stuff” all day long, but by the time I lay my head, I can’t really remember what that “stuff” was.

Thankfully, that wasn’t this week. Lots of kid time, cleaning time, friend time and wife time.

My cousin came into town and we had a blast. Mini shots of Jack Daniel’s, the gym and a beautiful walk along the beach. I was able to fully enjoy her company, with the children during the day, without at night. Although in regards to working out, I’m glad she left. I realize that I’m not in the place to enjoy a “regular” gym, and have been really enjoying my time at CrossFit over the last month.

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I started a book drive for low income families a little while ago and I was trying to create my own logo. After weeks of trying, I’ve given the project over to another cousin that hopefully bring it to life. I’ve seen drafts and it’s getting there. In the meantime, I have been asked to provide a flyer to pass out, and I finally finished it.

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My sister in law has been gracious enough to ask her students to support the drive and some friends and family have donated some books. It looks like I will hit my minimum mark of 150 books. Of course, I would still love more… a lot more. My ultimate goal is over 500.

After such a rough last week, we were healthy enough to finally to family photos. It’s been about three years and none with Butterfly. Alee Carter from Your Life Photography took over 400 photos, mostly because even though she was healthy, Butterfly was not ready to entertain or be entertained.

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She is finally in better spirits and can give me a smile like this instead. I know it’s a soft smile, but I love her little grins.

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After over a week hiatus, we completed our third podcast. It was cut short due to time constraints, but our next one should make up for it and possibly we’ll have a guest! So far, I’m loving the experience and the idea.

Spring is here. I’ve never done it before but I’m so ready to clean this house from top to bottom. Over the last month, I’ve been cleaning the garage box by box, with a growing give away/donate pile. I don’t look forward to cleaning the bathrooms or the floors, but I have my husband and son to help, right?

My birthday is next week and I’ve told my husband that I wanted to go out of town. He’s planning to surprise me, but I’ve been thinking of much more. If time were no option, I would love to do a European tour. You know, one that’s up and down or left and right of the Mediterranean. I would love to venture into each country and spend some real time see the historic aspects that we just don’t really have here in the states.

Blog hopping this week, I was inspired by these posts which made me feel like I could get some things done: Fun Snacks for Healthy Kids, 9 Smart Ways to Spend Your Tax Refund, and On the Last Day of My World.

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Thankfully, It’s Friday #TToT #FTSF

I awoke Tuesday morning ready to take on the day as usual… trying to balance mommying, working and housework. The day didn’t start out as normal though. One thing was off. Well, more specifically, one little one. Butterfly was not fluttering around as she typically does.

Breakfast was light, a Cheerio or two was all she ate. She only ate half of her mozzarella cheese stick and even that took her twenty minutes. On a regular day, it disappears in about five minutes.

I am not one to jump at small changes in my children’s behavior, but today was different. On top of everything above, she didn’t want to be put down…at all. To say that the morning was slow and unproductive is an understatement. After some rocking, walking and cradling, I finally got her down for a nap.

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Soon thereafter, Bunny’s school called letting me know that he did not feel well and had not consumed his lunch. I was waiting for the question “Can you come to pick him up?”

Darn it, thankfully I just got her to sleep.

I texted my husband, Jeff, more to keep him in the loop, and less for him to “do” something. He was at work and quite frankly, when he’s working, there’s not much that he “does” for the house. Don’t make any mistake, I don’t expect him to drop things when life happens at home.

So, his response surprised me. “I can get him.” I hadn’t even told him that the baby was sleeping and I didn’t want to wake her. Thankfullyhe volunteered to bring my son home.

The rest of the day went as expected, except that thankfully I had Jeff’s extra pair of hands to help me through the messes, diaper changes and vomits by two of my children.

Of course, while switching between cleaning up after the kids and holding them, I get an urgent message for a last minute change to a prospectus for a client of mine. When exactly would I get to editing this before the night was out? I had already spent hours working on it the night before and I had no idea how much would be entailed in this edit. Thankfully, it wasn’t too intensive and I managed to get it done within a couple of hours.

The next day brought more thanks when my husband decided to take a whole day off of work to help me out. Jeff only has hundreds of hours of sick time which he never takes (hence the hundreds of hours).

I was hoping to wake up Thursday and all would be normal again. It wasn’t. Still illness coming out of both ends of two of my children and I have to say I was thankful that Jeff took a THIRD day off. Well, he took a part of a day off. I was willing to take anything. Anything was helpful.

By the end of Thursday, I was thankful that Bunny and Butterfly were in better spirits and eating real food again. Although I don’t mind Bunny home from school, with it being testing “season”, I don’t like him missing in class lessons.

It’s Thursday night now and my children are thankfully in clean beds with clean pillows and clean pajamas. In short, lots of laundry was done this week. Lots.

Thankfully, no matter how I feel about our relationship, God somehow has Jeff show me how much he loves me and us, right on time.

And my final thankful comes from this week’s Finish the Sentence Friday.

When I was fourteen, I was invited to prom by a starter on the football team and class officer. He was one of the most popular kids in the senior class. I told him I had to ask my parents, because I was just that good of a girl. When I came back to tell him I could go, he had asked someone else.

Prom night was a rainy one… one that poses all sorts of additional problems, especially those on the road. My would-be date got a flat tire and never made it to prom.

Thankfully, I did not go with him.

 

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I thought I would have a partner this week, but alas, I do not. So… I asked myself the questions. This will be a little different from my last mix-ups. Here we go!

What is #AskAwayFriday? Well…
#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County and Amber from Bold Fit Mom, as a way to connect with other bloggers with a great Q & A session of 10 questions and 10 answers, between two bloggers! This is a wonderful opportunity to get to know others while allowing others to get to know you and of course there is also the added bonus of making great friends along the way which is one of the best parts of this online world! Ask me if you want to swap!

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Now welcoming our wonderful #AskAwayFriday hosts…
Tamara from Tamara Like Camera,
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
and
Echo from The Mad Mommy
Grab our brand new button, follow our amazing hosts, hop through the great link ups and make some new friends!

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1. What’s changed most about your blog since you started blogging?

When I started blogging, I read blogs that were real but I was completely afraid to be that person. I didn’t want to seem like I was a complainer. I didn’t want to seem fake, so I started with a lot of informational posts. They were cool, but it really wasn’t me.

I’m so thankful that I have found the blogging community. There are Facebook groups for almost every type of blog, including no type. I have found support and a sounding board. Both have given me the ok to be me. As I evolve to really open up, tell stories, and become a better communicator, I have found that there are people who want to read it.

2. What’s changed most about you since you started blogging?

When I started blogging, I was pretty lost. As someone who graduated law school, but did not pass the bar, you are stuck in a precarious spot. Law firms aren’t that interested in hiring graduates who haven’t passed. If they hire you as a paralegal, they want a paralegal – not a lawyer. Yet, they don’t want to hire you as a paralegal, because they know that there’s a strong likelihood that you want to take the bar and actually practice. They know, and you know, that you did not spend possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars on a degree to make only 50% of the pay.

I am thankful that I kept going. Changing with each blog post, evolving and learning on what I want to be and what I don’t. I’m still not sure whether I will practice law in a traditional sense, but I have started to find a direction with my life. I’m not sure I would’ve gotten this far if I was just working a day job.

3. What are you looking forward to most this year?

There are a lot of things in the works ~ personally and professionally. I am thankful that I get to look forward to travels, possible family moves, a growing business and stepping into a role as a work at home mom, instead of a stay at home mom. I’m also very worried that I won’t be able to keep up, but I won’t know unless I try.

4. Have you accomplished any big goals recently?

No… and yes. I started Crossfit last week and have been going consistently. I am thankful to Groupon (and to the gym) for offering such a deal that I couldn’t turn it down and it’s close enough that I can go and they have a place for my children to go while I work out.

I’m also thankful that the transition from 100lbCountdown.com to aprilnoelle.com has gone fairly smoothly and except for working to get my subscribership up, my viewership is very strong.

5. What chore do you like least?

I am very thankful that my husband sweeps and mops the floors because I hate doing them. I hate picking things up too, but at least I feel some sense of completion.

6. What was the last movie you saw in theaters? How was it?

I am thankful that I had the opportunity to receive free tickets to see the new “Annie” prior to its release with my daughter, Bee. Annie was the first (and only) movie she has seen in the theater and she thoroughly enjoyed it. I wish it had more singing though. We have spent more time watching the original at home. Thank you Netflix!

7. It’s a beautiful day and you have finished all of your work. What do you do?

I am thankful that here in Florida, there are very few bad days. I am also thankful that we live in a relatively safe neighborhood, so I open the garage door, pull out our chair and let the kids run wild. Not only do they have tones of fun, they exhaust themselves for the evening.

8. What’s your dream date night?

I am thankful for the date nights that my husband plans from top to bottom… ones where all I have to do is get ready to go. I like to go to dinner and dancing, but not really clubs. I just like to have a place to talk to my husband. A walk along the beach has been a favorite.

9. When’s the last time you received something besides junk mail or bills in the mail? What was it?

I am thankful that I have made a lot of great connections in my new city. I love being able to go to some awesome events. The downside (but also upside) is that I get invited to a lot of things. Sometimes things way outside of my budget. The most recent was an invitation to the Inlet Grove Foundation Awards with guest speaker Iyanla Vanzant. As much as I would love to go and think this would be worthwhile cause, I don’t think it’s in my budget this year.

10. What’s your dream car?

I used to really want a Jaguar. Then I was blessed to have several friends who had acquired my precious Jaguar. I am very thankful that they showed me the err of my judgment and the extremely high cost of maintenance. Thus, my new dream car is an A8 Audi with Brilliant Black exterior, Velvet Beige Valcona leather interior, with Dark Brown Walnut wood inlay.

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It’s Friday. The end of Friday. My day has been long and pretty good. Started with a play date and nap time for one of them. A fatal accident caused me to be late picking up my son. A silent prayer was said. Doctors appointment, complete with vaccinations, sent Butterfly in a downward spiral. I managed to keep my spirits up. I took the kids shopping… yes, I said shopping, which I HATE. Butterfly needs sandals, desperately. It’s getting warmer here and she only has two pairs of sneakers. Off to the mall, I ventured.

Did you know people spend over $30 on shoes for an 18-month old? Of course you do. I live under a shopping rock, pretending that things don’t cost money and that people don’t spend over $30 for shoes when the child will outgrow them in a matter of possible a few weeks, much less months. These pair shoes will likely be outgrown before they even get dirty much less be worn through. Yet, in this outlet mall, there was a store full of shoes that cost over $30, none of which were designer.

But I digress. I didn’t get a partner for Ask Away Friday. After reading Tamara‘s post this morning, I see that she jumped in on some Old School Blogging with Elaine.

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If you could be on a reality show which one would you choose?

Well, I have no fashion sense and hate to shop. I would’ve wanted to be on What Not to Wear, but they make you shop. The great thing about the show is they would give you $1,000 for a new wardrobe, which I would never spend on myself. I would’ve also liked to have been nominated for How Do I Look? Both of these while answering this question I have found are off the air. 🙁 I guess I’ve been out of the loop for a while. So, a show still running, but also have no hope of ever getting on is the Apprentice, since it’s really the Celebrity Apprentice and I’m no celebrity

Name one thing you have saved from your childhood?

I only have my 11th grade yearbook. I left a lot of things at home when I went to college because there wasn’t a lot of space in my dorm room. The things I left at home were lost by my parents.

If your life had a theme song what would it be?

It’s been a long time since I had a theme song or a song that felt like it mirrored my life and it was “Lose Yourself” by Eminem. If you’ve been reading some of my posts, I think this song actually might be applicable again since I’m trying to find myself and be ready for opportunities around me.

This song got me through the tough times of law school, every time I wanted to just go home and give up, in the throes of my depressions, hating pretty much everything around me, except the peace of being in class and learning.

Now, it’s getting me through transitioning back into “real life” from being a stay at home mom. It doesn’t mean I’m going back to work, but it means that I need to keep improving, bettering myself for my future, for whatever it holds.

Look, if you had one shot, or one opportunity
To seize everything you ever wanted. one moment
Would you capture it or just let it slip?
Yo His palms are sweaty, knees weak, arms are heavy
There’s vomit on his sweater already, mom’s spaghetti
He’s nervous, but on the surface he looks calm and ready to drop bombs,
But he keeps on forgetting what he wrote down,
The whole crowd goes so loud
He opens his mouth, but the words won’t come out
He’s choking how, everybody’s joking now
The clock’s run out, time’s up, over, bloah!
Snap back to reality, Oh there goes gravity
Oh, there goes Rabbit, he choked
He’s so mad, but he won’t give up that
Easy, no
He won’t have it, he knows his whole back’s to these ropes
It don’t matter, he’s dope
He knows that but he’s broke
He’s so stagnant, he knows
When he goes back to his mobile home, that’s when it’s
Back to the lab again, yo
This whole rhapsody
He better go capture this moment and hope it don’t pass him
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You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo
You better lose yourself in the music, the moment
You own it, you better never let it go
You only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow
This opportunity comes once in a lifetime yo
(You better)

The soul’s escaping, through this hole that is gaping
This world is mine for the taking
Make me king, as we move toward a new world order
A normal life is boring, but superstardom’s close to post mortem
It only grows harder, homie grows hotter
He blows. It’s all over. These hoes is all on him
Coast to coast shows, he’s known as the globetrotter
Lonely roads, God only knows
He’s grown farther from home, he’s no father
He goes home and barely knows his own daughter
But hold your nose ’cause here goes the cold water
His hoes don’t want him no more, he’s cold product
They moved on to the next schmoe who flows
He nose dove and sold nada
So the soap opera is told and unfolds
I suppose it’s old partner but the beat goes on
Da da dum da dum da da

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No more games, I’ma change what you call rage
Tear this m-f*ing roof off like two dogs caged
I was playing in the beginning, the mood all changed
I’ve been chewed up and spit out and booed off stage
But I kept rhyming and stepped right into the next cypher
Best believe somebody’s paying the pied piper
All the pain inside amplified by the fact
That I can’t get by with my 9 to 5
And I can’t provide the right type of life for my family
Cause man, these g-d food stamps don’t buy diapers
And it’s no movie, there’s no Mekhi Phifer, this is my life
And these times are so hard, and it’s getting even harder
Trying to feed and water my seed, plus
Teeter totter caught up between being a father and a prima donna
Baby mama drama’s screaming on and
Too much for me to wanna
Stay in one spot, another day of monotony
Has gotten me to the point, I’m like a snail
I’ve got to formulate a plot or I end up in jail or shot
Success is my only m-f*ing option, failure’s not
Mom, I love you, but this trailer’s got to go
I cannot grow old in Salem’s lot
So here I go it’s my shot.
Feet, fail me not, this may be the only opportunity that I got

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You can do anything you set your mind to, man

Where is your happy place?

Wherever my kids are. Even when they’re driving me up the wall, when they’re happy, I’m happy.

What is one thing about your home that you and your spouse disagree on?

Keeping it clean. He thinks for the most part, he can drop things wherever and I have to pick them up.

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What is your favorite fruit?

Really depends on how I feel. I love strawberries, peaches, and green grapes. Frozen green grapes are best when it’s hot outside.

Bowtie or regular tie?

My husband looks great in both… Unless it’s a funeral, seeing either means something special is going on and I’m up for it! Do I get to get a new dress? LOL.

Mexican or Italian (food, not men)?

I’m from Southern California… where there is some great Mexican food. I will have to say Italian though because I haven’t had much Mexican without being smothered in cheese or accompanied by rice.

Where do you want to go on Summer vacation?

I would love to go to France for a few weeks. Yes, weeks. I haven’t had the opportunity to go back yet and I’d love to go as an adult.

What are your go-to shoes in your closet?

Sneakers – pink and turquoise Asics

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Things I’m Thankful for…

1. Getting clarity on my future path. It’s something that I’ve been struggling with for a while. I think it’s a community organizer, starting with my first movement, Rooted Readers.

2. Not dreading the fact that Friday tends to feel like a long day.  A post coming soon on why it’s not quite so long and I have actually started looking forward to it.

3. Getting to go out about once a week, without children, and converse amongst other adults.

4. Realizing how important it is to take care of me, and starting to learn what that means.

5. Realizing that I could totally be a homeschooling mom, with my son being home this week… explanation also to be included in that post from #2.

6. The ability to move after my first trip to Crossfit.

7. The Dollar Store. It’s been my third home. 🙂

8. People telling me that my kids are cute while shopping. It means that they aren’t rolling their eyes and cussing under their breath.

9. Papa John’s for the times that I don’t feel like cooking.

10. All of the blogs that made me smile or think:

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I’m doing another swap with the Turn it Up Tuesday creator and co-host, Natasha of Epic Mommy Adventures today. Her site helps single parents deal with and succeed at single parenting, co-parenting and other parenting/relationship advice. She will be asking me questions in today’s “Ask Away Friday.”

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What is #AskAwayFriday? Well…
#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County and Amber from Bold Fit Mom, as a way to connect with other bloggers with a great Q & A session of 10 questions and 10 answers, between two bloggers! This is a wonderful opportunity to get to know others while allowing others to get to know you and of course there is also the added bonus of making great friends along the way which is one of the best parts of this online world! Ask me if you want to swap!

We are sad to be losing Amber as one of our amazing co-hosts, as she is working to pursue other business ventures and focusing her attentions on her fitness ventures. We wish her nothing but the best, and hope for her thriving success!

When one door closes, another one opens…and we would like to give a huge Ask Away Friday welcome to a brand new co-host…drum roll please…Welcome Echo from The Mad Mommy! She is both a friend and a fellow blogger. I dig her.

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Now welcoming our wonderful #AskAwayFriday hosts…
Tamara from Tamara Like Camera,
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
and
Echo from The Mad Mommy
Grab our brand new button, follow our amazing hosts, hop through the great link ups and make some new friends!

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Be sure to read Natasha’s answers to my romance questions HERE. And here are my answers to her questions:

 

1. Love your new series, “Oh My! How Things Have Changed!” What are some things that have changed since you became a parent? Wow! Too many things to list… which is why I started the vlogging series! Let’s start a short list:
  • Being able to sleep through the night (regardless of whether the kids are under the same roof)
  • Being able to work out on my own schedule
  • Being able to go out with friends… for the most part I’m home by 10, 11 if I push it!
Those are just to start! So, don’t forget to jump in on my vlog and and let me know how things have changed for you!
2. What do you like most about politics? What would you change if you could? I love that you can effectuate change. There are a lot of things that I want to change, but it’s hard. I would like to change people’s mindset about politics. I wish people didn’t grasp hold of a party and hold on for dear life as if everything that party said was correct. I wish people would listen objectively to the politicians and make the best decision for their situation.
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3. What is one thing that you could change if you could? In life? I wish I was much more wealthy. I stress a lot about money and have since I was about 14. I wish I had enough money that money was not a consideration. We’re getting there… using the Financial Peace University.
4. What do you enjoy most about being a stay-at-home mom? Watching the craziness of my kids and being able to enjoy it. I wasn’t a SAHM with my son and I can honestly say that I don’t remember much about him learning or his idiosyncrasies. He would come home one day and know something and come home the next and know something else. Some days, I was in a whirlwind about his consistent growth and very sad about how much I missed in his learning.
February Craziness
5. What is your goal in getting fit? How are you working to achieve your goal? I want to be between 150 and 170 pounds. I don’t really know how much yet because I felt great at 150, but the doctor asked me “Why so little? You’d do better at 170 based on your body type.” I have to determine as I get close to the goal, how I feel. I’m dieting and exercising. Ultimately there are no true short cuts. You have to choose a plan and commit to it. I’m cutting calories and walking 10,000 steps a day at least three times a week.
6. What made you decide to transition from 100lb Countdown to April Noelle for your blog? What inspired the change? I’d been considering it for a long time. I just hadn’t done it. I hadn’t really blogged strictly or even mainly about weight loss in over a couple of years. I think what really made me make the change was that all of the sponsors and/or contributors just wanted to talk about weight loss. Even on this blog hop, I was constantly being asked about my weight loss fanatisism and how I can get others to lose weight. For the most part, I started 100lb Countdown to keep myself accountable. I know it sounds selfish, but it wasn’t about helping anyone else. I don’t mind spreading information that works, since so many of us are in the struggle, but I didn’t like being pigeonholed as that “weight loss girl”.
7. What are you looking forward to doing this year? Any big plans? I’m really hoping to get my business off the ground. I just need time and focus. I want to help girls get their financial minds in order before they grow up and have to take on the big decisions, including college, marriage, kids, cars and homes. I want them to have them all, but with little to no debt! Yep, I’m talking about the house too!
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