It’s been a busy few weeks and I haven’t done a “Ask Away Friday” swap in about a month. Here I am, back again, with a Lent-based swap with Shannon of Walking Shoes, where she shares her love for her Black Mouth Cur named Tucker, her faith and dancing.
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Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
Echo from The Mad Mommy
1. Did you give something up for Lent? What was it? Why?
Yes, I gave up alcohol for Lent and I’ll be doing the Daniel Fast in about a week, so that I can just kinda start over.
I like fasts because it’s like a body and mind reset. Instead of relying on food, I rely on introspection and prayer to get me through the day and I always feel renewed and wonder why I don’t do it more.
Then I have a french fry and it all becomes clear again.
2. Did you make any New Year resolutions? Why did you make them?
I made some private resolutions, but a very public “Be Uncomfortable” challenge. I am trying to get out of my comfort zone by following through with ideas instead of finding reasons why I can’t do it.
To this end, so far, I’ve started attending a new community meeting a month, taking my children out for a walk almost every day, started a book drive, and slowed down to fall in love with my family all over again.
3. You recently made a change to your health lifestyle; what helped you make that decision?
I don’t know if it was quite a recent change, but I’ve been actively pursuing losing weight for a few years, with a couple of pregnancies in between. I’m just tired of gaining weight or not being able to buy clothes that don’t look like a tent or being asked if I was pregnant, when I wasn’t.
Being unhealthy makes your body ache and move in ways that healthy people just don’t deal with, it leads to additional health problems which could eventually lead to an early death. I want to be here as long as I can for my family.
4. How would you describe Lent to someone who doesn’t understand it/never heard of it?
I would just give them the Wikipedia version. I grew up Catholic, and now am a Christian, who typically don’t celebrate Lent. Since I grew up fasting and praying during this season, I have continued doing it on some level. I just believe more in the season of renewing and since it happens every year, it’s a time frame that I can remember to do it at least once per year. I may do it more, and sometimes I don’t do it at all.
5. How did the change in your family change your life?
I’m not sure which change that you’re talking about… the major change that comes to mind is me losing Alexander. That change led me to become a stay at home mother. It has made be become a more attentive mother because I couldn’t quite understand how the life I was leading was healthy for me or my kids or what. Basically, I kept asking myself “What am I doing all of this for?”
6. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I wish I could already be at my goal weight so I wouldn’t have to think about it anymore. I’m not so good at eating healthy, especially being home where other people will buy things not quite so healthy.
7. What is one thing you would change about your spouse, if any? Why?
Hmmm. that’s a good question. I would say my biggest pet peeve is his follow through. He says he wants to do something and it’s something that won’t really take that long to complete, but it’ll be weeks before he gets to it.
8. For someone who is wanting to change their lifestyle, what advice would you give them?
Take baby steps. Take one baby step at a time, master it, then move to the next one. When we take too big of a leap, most people will give up because they feel the hurdle is too big.
As an example, if you’re trying to lose weight, remove something that you know you could live without first, that guilty pleasure that never really actually brings you joy, but you do anyway. For me, that’s chips. I don’t really like chips, but if they’re there I will eat them, but I rarely consider buying them and don’t bring them to parties.
Also, once you feel the victory of one thing, you are more open and willing to take that next step in cultivating that goal. If your first goal is to give up carbs, you may be successful for a while, but most people put the weight back on because they tend to not know how to moderately keep it in how they eat.
9. What are some verses that you would share/read in preparation/while practicing Lent?
This Lent, I’m actually reading Psalms and Proverbs, delving into Purpose Driven Life with my son and spending more time with my family. I’m also listening to educational and motivational podcasts to keep me on the right path of thinking differently and more positively.
10. If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
I would love for race relation issues to just go away. Unfortunately, it’s in every society across the world in some form or another, rather it be light versus dark skin, white versus black, or religions that are intertwined with race. Somehow, as a people, we can’t, on a large level, get out of it.
I watched Scandal last night (SPOILER ALERT if you haven’t seen it). The episode was about a boy who shot by a cop and the reason behind it. An officer made a speech at the end about how the boy got shot because the blacks in the community were taught to disrespect the cops, when he goes out to risk his life every day in a neighborhood where he is afraid himself. He also pointed out there was tons of black on black crime in the preceding year and no one was talking about that or trying to find those killers.
I completely agree. But the conversation isn’t complete, no one addresses whether the people called the cops to no avail or decided not to call because they knew they wouldn’t get assistance.
The death of an innocent person is never acceptable. Yet, the full picture of the hamster wheel that has been created in some communities have never been addressed. Often, it’s a bunch of scared people, who only see the negative in the other. I’m not saying that there aren’t bad people on both sides. There’s so much built up hostility. There’s no widespread movement to improve the relations between the sides.
There’s always the future.