Voice – #FiveMinuteFriday

Since this is about voice, I thought I’d add an audio file!

FMF – Voice


When you hear voice, most people think of the audible – the words that come out of someone’s mouth. But there’s so much more to someone’s voice.

Their facial expressions

Their clothing

Their body movement

They are all telling you something – sometimes screaming.

Next you have to determine their tone. Who are they as a person, and what could their words be saying to you.

The kid who wears black from head to toe – may be he’s angry, may be he’s trying to fit in, but you have to know the child and listen to their voice.

Teenagers, especially, don’t voice their problems to their parents, but it comes out in so many ways – dark clothing, not keeping up with their hygiene, cutting, not eating.

Friends and family may do the same.

They are speaking. Are you listening?



Wow – does five minutes fly! Here are the rules:

We write for five minutes flat. All on the same prompt that I post here at 1 minute past midnight EST ever Friday. And we connect on Twitter with the hashtag #FiveMinuteFriday {and on Thursday night with #FMFParty}.

No extreme editing; no worrying about perfect grammar, font, or punctuation.

So now on Fridays a group of people who love to throw caution to the wind and just write without worrying if it’s just right gather to share what five minutes buys them. Just five minutes.

Our most important requirement for participation: There’s really only one absolute, no ifs, ands or buts about it Five Minute Friday rule: you must visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community.

Tonight a bunch of us are together at a conference so we’re doing it live – come join us, eh? And link up below.

OK, are you ready?

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Five Minute Friday: Look

Five Minute Friday gives you five minutes to write on a topic, unedited. This week’s topic is “Look”. Here we go:

Look. A simple word. But how often do we do it?

Look. In the Mirror. Do you like what you see? Do want to see more?

Look. At your goals. Are you meeting them? Are you even trying to?

Look. At your family. Are you present when they’re around?

It’s easy to look, but it’s not easy to see. In a world where we’re busy, it’s easy to look all around, but not see anything. We were made to succeed in this world and most of us miss it because we aren’t looking in the right direction.


I am happy. But I don’t like what I see in the mirror. I need to work harder. I need to see the change in the mirror. I want to see the changes. I want to become the change. I want to lead the charge. I want to hit my goals and see the difference in my life and in the mirror. Who doesn’t want that?

Take the time to stop and LOOK.



It’s easy to join in, just:

  1. Check what the prompt is on my blog.
  2. Write a post in only five minutes on that topic on your blog.
  3. Link over here and invite friends to join in.
  4. Select the permalink to your post {so not your blog url www.lisajobaker.com but your post url www.lisajobaker.com/2012/07/five-minute-friday-2/ }
  5. Using the linky tool at the bottom of my Five Minute Friday post enter your link.
  6. Your post will show up in our Five Minute Friday linky.
  7. Be sure and encourage the person who linked up before you!

Our most important requirement for participation: There’s really only one absolute, no ifs, ands or buts about it Five Minute Friday rule: you must visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community.

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Five Minute Friday – Race…


The person who crosses the finish line first isn’t always the person who wins the race. Sometimes there are other goals or rules that the runner doesn’t know, sometimes, you have to go around the track a second time. Ultimately, you have to know what game you’re playing to win!

I thought about this while watching a new show – Life after Top Chef. One of my favorite chefs is Fabio – he’s so adorable and the accent is to die for. He said one thing that was poignant. “I never when on Top Chef to win, I went on to be the fan favorite.” And out of all the chefs, he ultimately seems to have the most going on. He’s opened up two new restaurants since the end of the show, starting some sort of drink line, is doing pizza commercials, and I’m sure many other things that he hasn’t mentioned. The others have a restaurant or two, but not increasing at his level.

Why is this important? Because he set his own rules, knew what the long-term game plan was and strove for it. He knew that he may not have been the best chef, but knew that he was going to take his five minutes of fame and turn them into years of prosperity.

In your life, what race are you running? Are you competing with people who will always win? Are you in a race as a mother, wife and four children, while the other runner is a single woman with no debt?

Think about the finish line – then think about how you are going to win this race!

Set your timer, clear your head, for five minutes to just write without worrying if it’s just right or not.

1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking.
2. Link back here and invite others to join in.
3. And then absolutely, no ifs, ands or buts about it, you need to visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community..

Oh and Ahem, if you would take pity and turn off comment verification, it would make leaving some love on your post that much easier for folks!

OK, are you ready? In the spirit of welcoming the 31 Dayers to join us, won’t you please give me your best five minutes.

I’m spending 31 days writing about how to write your story.
It’s part of the 31 Days Challenge hosted by the Nester.

Aloha Friday Blog Hop 

Weekend Blog HopAt Home Take 2

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Irritated is my Middle Name

You know sometimes when you read or hear something, you insert a meaning or description to what was said to fit yourself? That’s what happened with this week’s prompt.

What it said: 5.) Tell us about the last thing that irritated  you.

What I read: 5.) Tell us about what irritates you.

I’m SO glad that I read it again so that I could actually answer the prompt, otherwise, this would have been a really, REALLY long post.

I’m going to talk about something outside my four walls since those are what I discuss most of the time.

I’ve been running almost every morning for the last week or so (and plan on continuing), and I saw something that completely irritated me.

I have to disclose this first. I don’t like animals – of any kind. I don’t understand why you would want to take care of something that will not ever have the opportunity to move out or take care of you. I’ve never wanted one as a child and the closest I got to pet-care was when my dad left the country for a funeral and wanted to make sure he had living fish when he returned. Probably the easiest job ever and I think I forgot to feed them at least one of the days.

All that said, to each their own. If you want a pet and enjoy it, more power to you. BUT those owners who feel that the rest of us should deal with their choice to have a pet irritate me. During my walk with my daughter, I found two little balls of poop along the walk way.

The park, pictured at the left, is mostly green. The dark areas are baseball fields, the light line in the middle is the pathway. At 9 a.m. this morning, there were probably 40 people walking along the path.

During my walk north, near that white sideways P (which is a parking lot), there will a little ball of poop. Fifty yards further along the path, there was a second. Again, this park is FILLED with grass. Not to say I think it’s cool to have poop in grass, but considering there were people walking along the path, many people walking along the path, it would be courteous not to put it in the walkway of all of these visitors.

It’s obvious that this particular person did not care about care about the other people, but come on! ALL of that grass around this park, and you let your dog poop in the walkway? You can’t get more than a couple of feet from a bunch of grass, no matter where you are in the park.

It irritates me immensely that people don’t pick up their dog’s poop or at least have their dog poop in grass where people aren’t running. Of course, I’d rather them pick up the poop. I wouldn’t want to step in it running through the HIGHLY trafficked park either.

Is this just my irritation?

This Week’s Prompts

1.) What comes to mind when you think of the word ‘plaid’.

2.) Share a moment when you felt surprised.

3.) They’re smarter than they look! Write about a time your child was on to you.

4.) Choose an item you recently pinned on Pinterest and…TRY IT! Was it a success or failure?

5.) Tell us about the last thing that irritated  you.

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AUTUMN is Here!

Week after week, I take a look at Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop and I start writing. I have several that I just didn’t finish for one reason or another and since this is a mini-blog-hop type project, I always feel bad about finishing after Friday.  But this week, here is the prompt talking about my FAVORITE season!


Isn’t this picture cool?

10 Things I Love About Autumn!

Ten. Falling Leaves

Nature always amazes me that even though the weather is unnaturally over 100 degrees outside, it knows that leaves are supposed to fall. The leaves are gliding down off of my tries already, while the remaining leaves are turning colors.

Nine. Weather

 I do NOT like summer (unless I’m in a pool) and having no pool at my home, I spend summer patiently awaiting the weather to cool down so I can go outside and keep me and clothing two separate. The weather softens and it doesnt’ feel like it’s attacking me anymore. The wind wraps me in its arms as I walk around the park or take my son to school.

Eight. School Starts

Especially as a new Stay at Home mom, I (and my son) love that he gets to go to the school during the day. I love him, but he’s an expressive and defiant me in a tiny package. I need a break.

Seven. No Reruns.

All of my favorite (and some new) shows come on television in the fall. No more searching for something to watch since my DVR becomes so full, I have to use both just to catch all my shows. And this year, I’ll actually have time to watch them, without waiting for that “free” weekend in which I can just watch it marathon-style.

Six. Warm Drinks

As much as I like iced drinks and especially ice cream, one of my favorites is Sugar & Spice (a fruit wine from the Wine Tailor) warmed. It is SO good.

Five. Winter is Coming

I love snow, which is funny considering that I live in CA and it rarely snows. But I love chilly weather because I can turn on the fireplace, and the family comes together.

Four. Halloween is coming

Yes, I’m Christian, but I love dressing up and partaking of the holiday festivities. I used to be in to the scary, but now, we just get into the fun. My son LOVES superheroes, which I love because who can’t support a superhero?

Three. Thanksgiving is Coming

We don’t do too much. Sometimes we visit my in-laws, sometimes we stay home. But I love the food that we cook for Thanksgiving – Turkey, Greens, Sweet Potato Pie, Yams, Corn on the Cob, Cranberry Sauce… Yummy all around.

Two. Daylight Savings Time

Not only do I love winter, I also love darkness (probably because it’s cooler). I’ll be able to get an extra hour of sleep because Daylight Saving Time is ending. Woohoo! It also means that it’s easier to get the kids to sleep earlier because it’s already dark.

One. Christmas is coming

Pine, gingerbread, eggnog, family, Christmas trees, love, celebration, family… and lets not forget gifts… Christmas is truly the best day of the year. I love watching my son open his presents. I love it especially when it’s cold, lit fireplace, hot chocolate and family time!

I did it! So can you! What Mama Kat prompt do you want to answer?

Mama’s Losin’ It
1.) Describe a smell that brings back memories. (inspired by Darlingist Dr. Momsie )

2.) Tell a story (based on truth or fiction) where someone is playing with fire–literally or metaphorically–and probably shouldn’t be. (inspired by writingfix.com )

3.) Draw, label, and share the layout of your childhood home.

4.) Write a blog post inspired by the word: leaves

5.) Fall is here! List your top 10 favorite things about this Fall season.

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10 Day You Challenge: Six Places

Today is all about places that I want to go. This is actually harder than I thought. I figured, I could pick some vacation places, and that’d be it. Choosing six places to go can be more than just the superficial. Enjoy!

Six. Anchorage, AL

I’m not sure why, I just always wanted to see what Alaska had to offer. I love cold weather, so it’s definitely a place for me to be.

Five. Seattle, WA

Went to Seattle when I was in college. It’s the number one place that I’d want to live if not in California. It rains 9 months a year and for most people, that would be a turnoff, but I would welcome it. The greenery, the city life, it was just so much fun to be in.

Four. DisneyWorld, Orlando, FL

With all of this, need I say more?

Three. The White House, Washington D.C.

Not a tour, I want an actual visit. I would like to meet the President and the First Lady. I would like to go to a White House dinner. I would like to ask the President some hard questions – regardless of who’s in office/

Two. Paris, France

I have family in France, and it is the city of love. I went once when I was a teenager and completely fell in love myself. I would love  to return as an adult and get a different view of the land. Actually my favorite city was Nice, but since I have my hubby and kids, they have to see le Louvre and la Tour Eiffel. I took some beautiful pictures of EVERYTHING, even before digital, but alas, they were lost many years ago.

One. Haleiwa, HI

As I mentioned last week, my best friend lives in HI. I miss her and her family dearly and one of these days, she’s supposed to show me how to surf!


You can still work out on vacation:

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“Thin” Doesn’t Run in Our Family

For Labor Day, I had some family over. As a hard-working single mother of three children, she tries her best everyday. She’s a heavy gal, like me, but the more time that I spend with her, the more I realize a couple of things. First, she lumps me in with her every weight discussion we have, regardless of the purpose of the conversation. Second, she doesn’t think that our family can be “thin”.

Lumping… I like that word for this, mainly because that’s exactly what it is. When discussing weight, she says “we” can’t be thin, “we” have never been thin and “we” shouldn’t look to be thin. I will say that I’m not quite sure what her interpretation of “thin” is. Is it something like this?

Victoria’s Secret

Or is it like this?

Dove’s Real Woman Campaign

 To be frank, I have been “thin”. I was a size 5 at one point in time – for about six months. I felt weak and unhealthy, so I put on a little weight, taking me to a size 7 for another six months. I maintained it until I fell into a major depression, losing my best friend, I ate. Then before I got healthy, I fell into another depression, putting me at then-all-time high of size 18. But’s that’s all an aside, the point is I can be thin and each person is there own.

There is power in our thoughts. When we lump ourselves in with someone else, you feel safe, you feel safe to not make a change. When you can hold on to the idea that you and this other larger person are the same person, if they don’t do it, then you don’t actually have to try. Don’t let your attachment to your current self stop you becoming the person you want to be.

Our family… like a lot of black families, the women, especially, are large. My mother is larger now, maintaining a size 5 until her third child in her thirties. She never took it off, but she was tiny for a long time. My sister is also thin, donning a size 3. It’s not our family, it’s our decisions. We make awful decisions. We use food to console us, we eat too much, and we eat fried and starches.

That’s it. No genetic differences, no “big bones”, no “phat”. We are just big. You know how I know this… when other people who previously said they were big-boned and couldn’t lose weight, actually loses weight (through diet and exercise or procedure), they drop to a svelte size 5 or 7 and all perception of “big-bones” disappears.

However, we do have different body shapes. I can never look like that Victoria’s Secret model above and I’m ok with that. But I will be thin… thin and HEALTHY!


If we would change our thinking, we would be thinner.

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