5 Secrets to Changing the World Now

Since the last #1000Speak post, I thought about a time that I was an aggressor.

1000Speak - Voices Are Strong


When I played volleyball, either my junior or senior year, our coach allowed a junior varsity player to play on the varsity team. I’ll be blunt. She sucked. At the varsity level, you have certain expectations of teammates, one of which was being able to serve the ball overhand. She couldn’t. Really, she couldn’t play.

Why was she on varsity? Because she worked her butt off.

But we didn’t understand. Our childlike minds were angry that we had her on our team instead of someone better.

We would make comments to her, which weren’t nice. I can’t remember what we said.

Our coach abruptly stopped us when he told us in no uncertain terms that we were to question his decision to put her on the team, and that any words must be kind or unspoken.

This speech was one that adjusted not only our words, but our hearts. She was part of our team. Let me repeat that. She was a part of our team. She wasn’t an outsider (not to say that would’ve been ok). She was a part of us and if we hurt her, we hurt us.

Can I tell you a secret?

When you hurt someone else, you hurt yourself.

We are connected, in one way or another. Even driving down the street, when one car drives recklessly, it leaves the rest of us to make different decisions to avoid accidents. The reckless driver can also cause everyone else to get angry which as we know is contagious.

Can I tell you another secret? 

We can all make the change to be better people.

You Must Be the Change You Wish to See in the World - Mahatma Gandhi

This #1000Speak crowd does not see the world as others do. The creators believe that a few, 1000, can start a movement that will change the world.

Three more secrets to changing the world:

You only have to be yourself. Most people who have changed the world were ordinary. Gandhi, King, Tubman, and Washington were all people who wanted to see a difference. They often were the one person ready to step out in front of the crowd and be the face of the cause. They were still just one person… one person who got together with another one person… and so on to become a great group of voices.

These people know that there is a price to be paid to do things differently. Sometimes, speaking up opens you up to ridicule, like the cause that we’re discussing here – bullying. Other times, the price is friends, careers, and even family.

These people who have people. They are not alone. That is what #1000Speak is about… coming together and making our individual small voices, one large roar. We are not alone, because we have each other to make this change.


By the way, years later, with the invention of Facebook, I did apologize and she’s super successful and beautiful.

Come linkup and join us weekly for The 1 Word Blog Linkup hosted by The Golden Spoons, Blogitudes and Confessions of a Mommyholic on Wednesday Mornings at 6 am EST.  This week’s wordsSECRET & MORNING.


This post was partially inspired by the series Transformers: Age of Illumination by Pastor Todd Mullins

References: Acts 1:8, Acts 17, Romans 12:2, Romans 4:13

19 thoughts on “5 Secrets to Changing the World Now”

  1. I speak in my post today about the fact that I have been bullied, but that I have also believe in my past. I think it is important to admit it and to show that we are all human and make mistakes. Owning up to your mistakes is all we can do after-the-fact.

  2. This is a really, really good post. I love it. I’m so glad you had the chance to apologise, and that she accepted it shows very good grace on her part. It’s so easy to get into a herd mentality, especially where you feel the focal point isn’t living up to your expectations, or you feel you deserve better. Your coach did a brilliant thing, and it sounds as though the whole team learned from the experience. What a wonderful, responsible man.

    1. He was truly an awesome guy. He was inspirational and took a very short team (I was one of the tallest players at 5’6″) and we went to the championships year after year.

  3. April, you constantly amaze me and seriously couldn’t adore you more if I tried as even in being wrong here, you totally made amends and did right. Hugs and so glad you not only wrote this for #1000speak, but joined us for One Word, too 🙂

  4. I think back to when I was in high school and I know I did not appreciate people enough. Now, I know that it’s our relationships with one another that are the basis of happiness and fulfillment. So glad you got a chance to apologize, we need more kindness in the world.

    1. Yes, I was happy she was willing to accept it. We had a great conversation and she said she understood amongst it all. Still made me sad nonetheless. Glad that she’s not one of the ones who were broken.

  5. Very powerful secret – when we hurt others, we hurt ourselves. I have always believed that and suffered for it from when I didn’t listen.
    I love this story and what you and your teammates learned from it.

    1. When I watch “reality shows” and I see all of the drama that the people, the meanest people are always the most broken people. We learned a lot. We became a team after that.

  6. Your coach sounds fabulous and that his words allowed you to see her as part of your team and not an outsider is fantastic. That you apologized? So perfectly wonderful. I was mean to a girl at summer camp in 4th grade or so. I still wish I knew how to find her. Sigh. Beautiful post April!

  7. Happy Sunday April!
    Thank you for this post, my senior year of high school and my freshman year of college I was a bully. I was grieving my grandmothers death which is no excuse for hurting others. I was deeply hurt and I wanted to make others feel the way I felt. I rededicated my life to Christ and I had the opportunity to apologize to those I’ve hurt via My Space.
    Thank God for blessing you with such a great coach!

    1. That’s awesome that you were able to apologize. Many people don’t understand the effect for you and them if you do. Even if they don’t accept it, it’s an act of contrition.

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