Love Behind the Screen with Bernadyn {B is 4}

I’m doing another swap with a new friend, Bernadyn of B is 4 today. Her site is bursting with creativity, sharing her crafts, recipes and other DIY projects.  She will be joining me today in “Ask Away Friday.”

AAF with Bernadyn

 

What is #AskAwayFriday? Well…
#AskAwayFriday was created by the amazing Penny from Real Housewife of Caroline County and Amber from Bold Fit Mom, as a way to connect with other bloggers with a great Q & A session of 10 questions and 10 answers, between two bloggers! This is a wonderful opportunity to get to know others while allowing others to get to know you and of course there is also the added bonus of making great friends along the way which is one of the best parts of this online world! Ask me if you want to swap!

We are sad to be losing Amber as one of our amazing co-hosts, as she is working to pursue other business ventures and focusing her attentions on her fitness ventures. We wish her nothing but the best, and hope for her thriving success!

When one door closes, another one opens…and we would like to give a huge Ask Away Friday welcome to a brand new co-host…drum roll please…Welcome Echo from The Mad Mommy! She is both a friend and a fellow blogger. I dig her.

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Now welcoming our wonderful #AskAwayFriday hosts…
Tamara from Tamara Like Camera,
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
and
Echo from The Mad Mommy
Grab our brand new button, follow our amazing hosts, hop through the great link ups and make some new friends!

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Be sure to read Bernadyn’s answers to my romance questions HERE. And here are my answers to her questions:
1. What is your favorite quality about your husband? Well, what quality are we speaking of? My first thought is that I love my husband’s behind, but I have a feeling that’s not the type of quality that you’re talking about. His best quality is his unconditional love for his family. He is there for us, his parents and siblings. His family comes first and foremost.
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2. Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?  If so, what do you plan on doing to celebrate? Does “kinda” count as an answer? In theory, we do. We try to do something most years, but rarely do anything on Valentine’s Day… Restaurants are busy, stores sell out of chocolate, flower delivery men are making their rounds. Often I’m not part of that melee, but we try to do something. Try being the operative word. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time we did celebrate. But I want to! As of now, we do not have anything planned.

3. Where is a travel destination you and your husband would like to go if you could go in the next month? Normally I’d want to head north, but it’s way too cold to enjoy it. So, I think it’d be New Zealand or Australia. How long can I stay? I’m told I need a good couple of weeks to really enjoy it, then with the flight, I would need a few more days to recover.

4. What is the best marriage advice you’ve received? The best marriage advice I was received was during pre-marital counseling. The Pastor asked,

If he did not change from who he is today, could you live with him forever?
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It got me immediately. I couldn’t rely on his potential, I couldn’t rely on hopes and promises. I had to rely on what was. I took a good look at him, watched him for the next couple of weeks, watching his good habits and bad, his work ethic, how he treated me and his son with as an objective eye as I could muster. I only wanted to be married once and I didn’t want to screw it up.

It has served me well. Even after marriage, when I get angry, I try to determine if it’s in line with the man I married and somehow that makes it resort to let it go.

Don’t get me wrong, there are many things that I try to change, but now I realize that he had to want to change them too, which stops a lot of anxiety for me.

 

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5. Describe your ideal date. I would love the prom night date. I never went to prom, so I would love the limo pickup with my husband standing there with a bouquet of flowers. Champagne and chocolate in the limo, where we’re taken to a nice seafood restaurant. Then we take a nice long walk along the beach, just talking and enjoying each other’s company. I’ll probably change my “ideal” date if this ever occurs.

 

Of course, in reality, I’d settle for a night where my husband makes the plans and sets up and schedules child care, getting more than a couple of hours out of the house where we can talk.

6. Do you have a favorite book or movie with a love story in it? Not really. I think romantic movies are one of my least favorite genre, right next to westerns. I can do a romantic comedy, but movies like the Notebook are cool, but not a favorite. Oh, I love the Princess Bride…that counts right?

 

7. Do you have a couple you know who you admire? It’s my in-laws. Happily married after 38 years of marriage. They are gentle, kind and respectful of each other, still have date nights and love to spend time together. I didn’t see that growing up, so it’s nice to see up close.

8. What is one relationship advice you would give to your children when they’re adults? Besides what I answered in #4? I would say that love is an action, it’s not a noun. You don’t fall out of love unless you just don’t want to be in love. Yes, marriage takes work, but if you choose the right person, it’s easier than you think.

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9. What do you do to keep the spark going in your relationship? I remind myself that I want to be here, be in his arms and in his bed. I want to be his for the rest of my life. Then I do something just for him, out of the ordinary. Something simple like leaving a love note, making his plate, doing the entire bedtime routine alone. Then he typically reciprocates with something I’d appreciate, him cleaning the kitchen, giving me a massage or getting up with the kids in the middle of the night. I know these are little things, but all I have to do is watch a television show or read a few Facebook posts to know that not all women get a faithful man who’s happily married and even happier to come home at night after 11 years.

10. It can be tough sometimes to spend quality time together when couples have young kids.  We try to spend a couple hours together talking after the kids are in bed since we rarely get out on our own without them.  How do you find time or what do you do to spend quality time together with your husband? Lately, I’ve been working on making sure we have a routine so the kids do go to sleep at a decent hour so we have time alone every evening. However, since we moved, this has become a lot easier with my in-laws able to watch my kids. I’ve also humbled myself in being open with asking for them to watch them, just when I need a break.

26 comments on “Love Behind the Screen with Bernadyn {B is 4}”

  1. Oh The Princess Bride totally counts! LOL! My heart goes all a flutter whenever Westley says, “As You Wish”! Marriage does indeed take work, and I always tell my kids that nothing worth having is ever easy. Yeah, the hubby and I generally don’t go out into the masses on Valentine’s day…neither of us are crazy about crowds! Have a great weekend, April!

  2. Bernadyn says:

    Beautiful pictures, April and love your answers! Yes, that’s true, Princess Bride definitely counts, one of my fave movies, too. I want to go to New Zealand also, I heard it was beautiful. We aren’t going to any restaurants on Valentine’s Day either, we tried it once and it just didn’t feel romantic at all. We actually have friends and family who have already offered to watch the kids for us this year but we don’t even have anything planned! Thanks for the swap this week and wishing you a great weekend. 🙂

    1. April Noelle says:

      Girl, you better get to planning. I’ve realized over the years that many people say they’ll help. Now, hold them to it! Get your date night or vacation going! 🙂 No, the hustle and bustle of waiting for your table, a lot of crowds and whatnot does not make Valentine’s Day fun at all! It’s amazing you can get a better experience and even a decent price the night before or after! 🙂

  3. April, my husband also is a stand up guy, who has shown me unconditional love here, as well. So totally feel blessed on that level, too.

  4. Loved reading this. The question about whether you could live with a person if they don’t change is a great one and something more people should consider before getting married.

  5. Terry says:

    How wonderful that you and your family come first with your Hubs. That is all we ask for in a good marriage… for our mate to be there for us and love us … No Matter What!!

  6. Tamara says:

    Wow, what that Pastor said stopped me in my tracks too! It’s about what is right in front of you, and not what might have been or what might be.
    I love all the gorgeous family photos! I love all the thoughtful answers.
    I love The Princess Bride.

    1. April Noelle says:

      For me, it was profound. If you take it to heart, it’s revealing. Granted I hoped he WOULD change, and he has, but I was ready to be married to that man forever and that’s what made me happy.

  7. Sonya says:

    We don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day anymore either. It’s more about our kids than my husband and I going out on a date. Next week we will have a family day out and probably make some sweet treats at home. I hate trying to go out on typically busy days like Valentine’s day or Mother’s day. I’d rather go out when there isn’t an extremely long wait. By the way I love your hair curly 🙂

    1. April Noelle says:

      I like that idea. We’ll do a family love day. I’ll talk to my husband about it today. Maybe we can each make Vday cards for each other.

  8. Pam says:

    I love all your answers! It’s always fun reading things like this and learning more about the people I blog with. Also, The Princess Bride is great.

  9. Amber NElson says:

    These are all such great answers. Marriage is definitely a challenge!!

  10. I have my birthday on the 10th of Feb so I get to either go out for my birthday or out for valentines and I always get the birthday dinner. I feel like I get riped off lol

    1. April Noelle says:

      Yes! I have my son’s birthday this week as well and my daughter in December. I always try to make sure that the events are separate. It’s hard, but doable!

  11. This is such an insightful interview. It’s great to get such an inside look into her life.

    1. April Noelle says:

      It’s my life… 🙂 Thank you!

  12. This is a fun interview! I love to read this kind of stuff.

  13. Krystal says:

    That is awesome that your inlaws have been together so long. Truly inspiring! Great interview!

    1. April Noelle says:

      Yep! And they’re still kind and courteous to each other. You don’t see a lot of that.

  14. Lesley says:

    The Princess Bride was my favorite movie ever when I was growing up. I still watch it with my 13 year old daughter. I want her to marry a good man, one that will adore her in the same way…. and fight monsters off in a fire swamp too! 😉

  15. Love the post all about marriage and love! You have a lovely family. Thanks for sharing with Small Victories Sunday linkup.

    1. April Noelle says:

      Thank you! They are pretty good to me.

  16. Jhanis says:

    Love number 8! I feel and think the same way about love and marriage. It’s a commitment to work it out. It’s not easy all the time but it’s worth it!

    1. April Noelle says:

      It’s definitely worth it. It’s great to know that we’e done so much together.

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