I’m doing another swap with a new friend, Bernadyn of B is 4 today. Her site is bursting with creativity, sharing her crafts, recipes and other DIY projects. She will be joining me today in “Ask Away Friday.”
We are sad to be losing Amber as one of our amazing co-hosts, as she is working to pursue other business ventures and focusing her attentions on her fitness ventures. We wish her nothing but the best, and hope for her thriving success!
When one door closes, another one opens…and we would like to give a huge Ask Away Friday welcome to a brand new co-host…drum roll please…Welcome Echo from The Mad Mommy! She is both a friend and a fellow blogger. I dig her.
Tiffany from Mrs. Tee Love Life Laughter,
Christy from Uplifting Families,
Stacey from This Momma’s Ramblings
Echo from The Mad Mommy
2. Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? If so, what do you plan on doing to celebrate? Does “kinda” count as an answer? In theory, we do. We try to do something most years, but rarely do anything on Valentine’s Day… Restaurants are busy, stores sell out of chocolate, flower delivery men are making their rounds. Often I’m not part of that melee, but we try to do something. Try being the operative word. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time we did celebrate. But I want to! As of now, we do not have anything planned.
3. Where is a travel destination you and your husband would like to go if you could go in the next month? Normally I’d want to head north, but it’s way too cold to enjoy it. So, I think it’d be New Zealand or Australia. How long can I stay? I’m told I need a good couple of weeks to really enjoy it, then with the flight, I would need a few more days to recover.
4. What is the best marriage advice you’ve received? The best marriage advice I was received was during pre-marital counseling. The Pastor asked,
If he did not change from who he is today, could you live with him forever?
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It got me immediately. I couldn’t rely on his potential, I couldn’t rely on hopes and promises. I had to rely on what was. I took a good look at him, watched him for the next couple of weeks, watching his good habits and bad, his work ethic, how he treated me and his son with as an objective eye as I could muster. I only wanted to be married once and I didn’t want to screw it up.
It has served me well. Even after marriage, when I get angry, I try to determine if it’s in line with the man I married and somehow that makes it resort to let it go.
Don’t get me wrong, there are many things that I try to change, but now I realize that he had to want to change them too, which stops a lot of anxiety for me.
5. Describe your ideal date. I would love the prom night date. I never went to prom, so I would love the limo pickup with my husband standing there with a bouquet of flowers. Champagne and chocolate in the limo, where we’re taken to a nice seafood restaurant. Then we take a nice long walk along the beach, just talking and enjoying each other’s company. I’ll probably change my “ideal” date if this ever occurs.
Of course, in reality, I’d settle for a night where my husband makes the plans and sets up and schedules child care, getting more than a couple of hours out of the house where we can talk.
6. Do you have a favorite book or movie with a love story in it? Not really. I think romantic movies are one of my least favorite genre, right next to westerns. I can do a romantic comedy, but movies like the Notebook are cool, but not a favorite. Oh, I love the Princess Bride…that counts right?
7. Do you have a couple you know who you admire? It’s my in-laws. Happily married after 38 years of marriage. They are gentle, kind and respectful of each other, still have date nights and love to spend time together. I didn’t see that growing up, so it’s nice to see up close.
8. What is one relationship advice you would give to your children when they’re adults? Besides what I answered in #4? I would say that love is an action, it’s not a noun. You don’t fall out of love unless you just don’t want to be in love. Yes, marriage takes work, but if you choose the right person, it’s easier than you think.
9. What do you do to keep the spark going in your relationship? I remind myself that I want to be here, be in his arms and in his bed. I want to be his for the rest of my life. Then I do something just for him, out of the ordinary. Something simple like leaving a love note, making his plate, doing the entire bedtime routine alone. Then he typically reciprocates with something I’d appreciate, him cleaning the kitchen, giving me a massage or getting up with the kids in the middle of the night. I know these are little things, but all I have to do is watch a television show or read a few Facebook posts to know that not all women get a faithful man who’s happily married and even happier to come home at night after 11 years.
10. It can be tough sometimes to spend quality time together when couples have young kids. We try to spend a couple hours together talking after the kids are in bed since we rarely get out on our own without them. How do you find time or what do you do to spend quality time together with your husband? Lately, I’ve been working on making sure we have a routine so the kids do go to sleep at a decent hour so we have time alone every evening. However, since we moved, this has become a lot easier with my in-laws able to watch my kids. I’ve also humbled myself in being open with asking for them to watch them, just when I need a break.