It’s Friday again, and I’m taking on the challenge: “Why Put Off Tomorrow What I Can Do Today”, which means I’m doing this on Tuesday instead of Friday night. It also helps that the woman I’m switching with sent me my questions over the weekend!
Hooray, hooray, hooray it’s Friday and time for another fabulous #AskAwayFriday!
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What is the most important thing that you want to teach your children? I want my children to be honest, hard working and smart individuals. I want them to find something the enjoy and work hard building it and making it grow. However, I want them to work smarter and not harder, when they can.
Do you think you will work outside the home when your children are all in school? I don’t know yet. I have so many things buzzing around my head that I’m not sure a desk job will satisfy me. Also, we haven’t thrown out the idea of homeschooling, which would get in the way of any outside the home jobs.
You mentioned that you were so busy caring for other people you never thought you would have children of your own. How did you care for other people and what did you hope to accomplish in that field? Oh, I wasn’t paid to care for them. I basically worked to send money to my family, to the detriment of myself, physically, emotionally and financially and I never wanted to be that burden on my children. I figured if I didn’t have them, I couldn’t rely on them and therefore didn’t want them.
I have worked closely with women who have lost children. One area that women struggle with the most is guilt, even though it was not their fault in any way, shape or form. Can you help these women by sharing if you experienced any feelings of guilt and if so, how did you handle it? YES! I feel that guilt is the way that we process the loss ~ if we did something wrong, then we can somehow fix it. You can’t fix accidents, acts of God or medical mysteries. You can’t fix legal involvement, returning parents or someone else blundering paperwork. You can (or you think you can) your mistake. Just undo it and you’ll get your baby back. But that’s never the case. In order for me to heal, I had to forgive myself. I’m not even sure if that’s the right phrase, but I had to say to myself that even though I didn’t do anything wrong, and even if I did, I forgive me for any mistakes that I made. I tried some other things, but ultimately, I still blamed myself for his death and therefore I had to forgive myself.
I know you are working at making your marriage last. What have you learned that may be beneficial for women who are trying to do the same? A lot of people say communication, but talking to each other alone is not communicating. You need to learn to listen and finding the time and the place to bring up issues. I actually talk about how to make your marriage last in my book, Tidbits from Help Meets’ Hearts.
What wisdom or tips can you share with other women who are on a weight loss program? Stick with it! Starting over is really hard to do, and you typically have lost all previous progress:
What are absolutely passionate about? What do you do to realize that passion? Sadly, I can’t say that I have a passion. I’m a kinda jack of all trades, master of none. I like a lot about a lot of things. I love sports, and reality television, blogging, and providing information, playing with my children, and doing non-profit work. I like helping people, ultimately, whether it’s giving them a ride to the airport or giving them a resource to get help elsewhere, I do what I can.
What are your best qualities? I’m honest. My friends don’t come to me to sugar coat things. I have gotten better as aksing what they need first, so I don’t given them my honest opinion first. As in the previous question, I’m good at helping people.
What is your biggest pet peeve? Bad driving! I can deal with a lot of things, but when I’m in the car, with my children, I don’t want to deal with people who can’t make a turn on a left turn arrow, stop in the middle of the intersection when the light turns red or decides that the light might turn red so stops prematurely. Makes for a very frantic driving experience!
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